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"Happiness depends upon ourselves." —Aristotle

"Happiness depends upon ourselves." —Aristotle

🚫 Stop chasing happiness!

Many people connect happiness to the achievement of certain goals or aspirations. This practice makes happiness a reward, rather than an emotion that is deserved to be felt on a day-to-day basis.
Instead of chasing goals, and as an extension, chasing happiness, allow yourself to feel 'happiness' whenever it comes your way.

What makes a person Happy:
The three things we all need for a happy life

💙 Someone to love.
💚 Something to do.
💜 Something to look forward to.

If our basic needs are met through things like financial stability, good health, and a sense of fulfilment and purpose in daily life, then chances are you'll probably have a generally happier and more positive outlook.

Some Tips to help us be more happy

✅ Eat nourishing food
✅ Sleep seven to eight hours per night.
✅ Keep company with good people.
✅ Get regular exercise.
✅ Do something meaningful each day.
✅ Practice gratitude and generosity
✅ Get out of your head ( practice mindfulness)
🚫 Stop comparing
🚫 Stop complaining
🚫 Don't pursue physical possessions
Can we make ourselves happier?

Yes to a certain extent:
Our body is full of chemicals. Natural ones, that include and make hormones. They’re like little messengers that tell our cells and organs to do things.

Below are ways to increase happiness in your life by getting more of the 😁 Happy Chemicals 😁 and what to do to make it happen:

How to increase more of the happy chemicals

Get your DOSE of happiness:
🧡 D- Dopamine
💚 O- Oxytocin
💛 S- Endorphins
💙 E- Endorphins

Follow the images for details on how to increase your DOSE of happiness.

#happiness #brain #brainhealth #happy #coach #wellness #DOSEofhappiness

“If you get tired, learn to rest, not to quit.” — Bansky

Coming towards the end of the year, many of us are feeling the year-end pressure, a sense of burnout – and a dreaded depleted feeling of mental, physical and emotional exhaustion.

Don’t you feel that you need a long, deep and good rest?

When we rest, our brain is busy consolidating memories and quietly searching for solutions to problems we encounter.

Rest is vital for:
✅ Better mental health
✅ Increased concentration and memory,
✅ A healthier immune system,
✅ Reduced stress,
✅ Improved mood,
✅ and even, a better metabolism.

😴 Spending more time resting and less time actively engaged in work and being ‘busy’, not only boosts creativity and the ability to problem-solve, but it also makes the time actually spent on work more efficient.
😴 Rest is a fundamental part of success, health, and happiness.
There are many distractions in this digital world, and always something (or someone) requiring your attention. No matter what your schedule or task list may look like, resting and unplugging is vital to your long-term health.

Below are brief outlines of the types of rest we need:

💙 Mental Rest: involves focusing intelligently on your environment.
💙 Social Rest: means using the power of social connectedness to relax.
💙 Spiritual Rest: is the practice of community whereby we renew and revitalize ourselves.
💙 Physical Rest: focuses on the body and provokes calm, relaxation, mental alertness, and better health.

Relaxing your whole self — mind, body, and soul — can help you live a full life.

Services offered to help you reset and rest:
Yoga Nidra, Hypnotherapy, Wellness Coaching.
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No one will listen to us until we listen to oursel

No one will listen to us until we listen to ourselves. — Marianne Williamson

✅ Personal boundaries are the borders that we maintain between what is acceptable and what is not, in how we are treated.

✅ Boundaries that affirm us, but that are flexible enough to allow meaningful interaction with others is considered healthy boundaries.

⛔️Boundary crossing, occurs when someone does not respect our dignity, power, and our emotional well-being.

😶‍🌫️ People who have weak boundaries may take on others' problems & emotions as their own.

😶‍🌫️ It happens when a person thinks they must support others all the time, while in reality, they allow themselves to get overwhelmed and absorbed with another person's emotions and thier problems.

🙏🏻❤️‍Do not get me wrong, we should support others, while staying sensitive yet unaffected, without getting them to become emotionally dependent on you.

🙏🏻 It is human for us to feel for others, and to want to help, and we must help where we can; however, we must be very conscious of where to draw the line between ‘their problems’ and our ‘own problems’, not to carry everyone else before carrying ourselves, otherwise, we will be burdened under the heaviness of this weight and may find it difficult to attend to our own emotions needs and address our own problems.

😶‍🌫️ People with weak boundaries become victims of themselves, by becoming miserable and emotionally attached, by taking on other people's problems and their emotions. They really struggle to say no and set healthy boundaries. The other person then needs – that support person- to constantly attend to their needs, emotions, and well-being.

😞This is known as co-dependency - an excessive emotional or psychological reliance on another person.

Co-dependency can show up as:

⛔️ Difficulty making decisions.
⛔️ Difficulty identifying feelings.
⛔️ Difficulty communicating.
⛔️ Valuing the approval of others more than valuing yourself.
⛔️ Lacking trust in yourself
⛔️ Having poor self-esteem.

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A big one for me lately is that I am experiencing

A big one for me lately is that I am experiencing feelings of unworthiness and not being good ‘enough’.

To mask this I find myself wanting to be more productive – by doing more, achieving more and just being ‘MORE’ to increase my value to others – and mostly to myself.

Can you relate?

We all have a deep yearning to be loved and accepted as we are, why do we not fully allow that feeling of being worthy into our lives. Why do we allow our minds to tell us we are not enough as we are? Why do we seek validation elsewhere, and from others?

We feel unworthy and ‘not-enough’ in so many ways…

Feelings of worthlessness often involves a sense of insignificance in oneself and are strongly linked to hopelessness and self-blame.

We secretly experience a feeling of unworthiness and it may show up as:

😞 Low self-esteem
😞 Deep Shame
😞 Self-Blame
😞 An Inner- critic
😞 Negativity & overthinking
😞 Trying to constantly improve
😞 Not being ‘content’ with ourselves as we are.

😞 Overworking and doing ‘too much’
😞 Beating ourselves up when we are not doing ‘enough’
😞 Comparing ourselves to others

Why do we do this?
Are we afraid to let others see us as we are?

We hold harmful inner beliefs that bombard us with insults that we would never say to someone else, but yet, we easily say negative things to ourselves all the time?

We fuel our own feelings of unworthiness all the time, by believing our minds, that tell us that we are not good enough

The result?

🤯 We may feel disconnected, alienated, separate, and alone.

🤯 We may try numb ourselves from these painful feelings of unworthiness by eating and drinking way too much, overspending, and trying to stay insanely busy.

🤯 We may constantly try to mask our feelings of unworthiness - experience feelings of inadequacy.

🤯 We may compare ourselves with others

🤯 We may develop defence mechanisms to help cope with our troubling thoughts of being unworthy.

🤯 We may tend live our lives closed off from the world, believing that if we let ourselves be seen as we are, we would simply be rejected.

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Setting self-care and personal days for yourself i

Setting self-care and personal days for yourself is so crucial – why do we neglect it?

😶‍🌫️ To keep up with the roadrunner- hamster-wheel-type of living, we don’t think twice before putting our own self-care needs on the back burner.

😔We say … ‘later, it can wait, not now, it is not needed, I will get to it another time…’

🤯More often than not, it takes a massive wake-up call ‘event’, to notice the toll of burn-out-over achiever-do-it all kind of lifestyle that constantly involves :

📍Ensuring you are working at full capacity, meeting deadlines, managing the household and kids, eating right, socialising, doing house chores, taking care of others, maintaining your partner’s needs, buying groceries, cooking, exercising, eating healthy and eating your vegetables ( before they rot in the fridge)… staying hydrated … and keeping your s*it together ALL the TIME…

😔This kind of lifestyle 24/7/365 all day, every day, takes its toll on our lives – When do we go OKAY - I am done– I need time for ME?

This type of lifestyle of neglecting time for ourselves and our own needs causes stress on the mind and the body…

✅ A self-care plan is a set of daily activities ( not once in a while) that we deliberately take part in every day, in to improve our inner and outer well-being – to be able to take care of others.

✅ Self-care is so important, yet underrated… why do we struggle to say sorry – I cannot do this now, or I will do it later, or I can’t do it at all…

When do we make time for ‘me’?

💜 Self-care should be called :

💜 Self-help, so I can help others

💜 Self-love, so I can love others.

💜 Self-honouring, so I can honour others.

💜 Self-respecting so I can respect others.

💜 Self-Boundaries, so I can respect others' personal/emotional forms of boundaries.

Self-care helps you:

🌸 Perform at your best.

🌸Supports your well-being.

🌸Maintain self-confidence and self-esteem.

🌸It makes you aware of our personal needs.

🌸It allows you to be resilient.

🌸It can help you feel well-rested and energized.

🌸It fills your tank – so you can look after others.

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"Difficult people have a way of making you think i

"Difficult people have a way of making you think it's your fault - ignore them"

How to deal Dealing with challenging people and challenging situations.

🤯 Knowing when to engage and when to not engage, in a challenging situation with a person that belittles you and brings out the worst in you.

😶‍🌫️Have you ever come across a situation where someone treated you badly?

😔Have you ever been in a situation where you felt small, worthless, and humiliated by someone’s words and behaviour towards you.

😭Have you ever been in a situation, where someone whom you ‘have’ to deal, that attacks you in a manner that you may find triggering (this may be a stranger, a co-worker, a friend or even a family member) …

😞Perhaps you have a repeated history of fighting and arguing with this person or a challenging confrontation situation happens with a total stranger … and things become heated.

❤️‍🩹Where their words cut deep, and they could not care less about how their words, actions or behaviour affect you.

😔Where their actions and behaviours make you feel humiliated, small, and unworthy.

😶‍🌫️Where they attack you, make you feel insecure, doubtful and dig into your ‘weaknesses’ and throw it ‘all’ into your face.

How did you react?
Do you challenge and engage with the person in that situation, or did you walk away?

When should you engage, and when should you not engage?

Dealing with challenging people in challenging situations whether it’s someone you’re in a relationship with, your parents, your boss, or your mother-in-law can mentally and emotionally exhausting…

Sometimes we may across extremely draining and emotionally abusive people and it can severely impact our mental health.

A lot of the time we feel at blame and may experience a certain sense of guilt, for what happened (s) and that we need to ‘prove’ our side of the story and to attack back and charge at the person whose words cut us deep, who humiliated (s) us, to explain our side of the story and to make ourselves heard.

Do not do that!

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Happy First of November all “Everything you can

Happy First of November all
“Everything you can imagine is real.” —Pablo Picasso.

💜 I want to share with you 2 ways you can use creative visualisation in your life...

1. How to use visualization to calm your mind

💫Use Your Creativity And visualisation in your daily claiming practice to find inner peace.
💫Visualization is a powerful technique that can help relieve the symptoms of anxiety.
💫The technique involves using mental imagery to achieve a more relaxed state of mind.
Similar to daydreaming, visualization is accomplished through the use of your imagination.
Use visualisation to calm you…
You can use visualisation to calm you, picture yourself in a scene, where you know you are safe and protected and can just be.
When visualizing your calming scene, think about what you are experiencing through all of your senses as if it is real.
Notice what you hear, smell, taste and how your body feels.
When you feel ready to leave your relaxation scene, take your time and gradually return your mind to the present.

2. Use visualisation to help you achieve a certain goal or outcome.
You can use creative visualization to help you in your day to day life to achieve a Favourable Outcome.
Are you stuck in a stressful situation?

🤯 Maybe you’re working on a tough project
🤯Or perhaps you’re thinking of quitting your job to start your own business.
🤯 Or maybe you’re just about to give the presentation that could determine your career.

Creating mental images of the desired outcomes can help you reduce the stress resulting from these stressful situations.
😃All you need to do is to think and visualize a time when the situation is resolved.

An example can include thinking about the applause you’ll receive after receiving your presentation, the recognition you’ll get once the project is complete, or your life as a successful entrepreneur.
When visualizing your desired outcome, think about every detail.
✅ What are you wearing?
✅ Who’s there with you?
✅ What do you smell?
✅ What are you saying?
✅ Where are you?

Including even the smallest details will help enhance your visualization practice.

Care to try it sometime?
Let me know how it goes for you?

🌸 Hello November 💜 May you Manifest Health M

🌸 Hello November 💜
May you Manifest Health
May you Manifest Wealth
May you Manifest Peace
May you Manifest Joy

The moment you decide you deserve more, your life will change.

🌸 If you want something more magnificent for your life, pay attention to what you are thinking about, dreaming about, and working on building for yourself.

🌸If you want something more significant for your life, pay attention to what you are aiming for yourself, what is in turn what your heart desires.

🌸If you want something more magical for your life, pay attention to what you already have with a grateful heart.

In those quiet moments of reflection, between wishing for something better, and striving to be better, choose to pause, breathe and look around and see the beauty that beholds inside you.

In those moments, choose to pause, breathe, feel, see, take it in, and let it be as it should.

#newmonth #hope #joy #wealth #peace #health

Mindfulness is a way of befriending ourselves and

Mindfulness is a way of befriending ourselves and our experience – Jon Kabat-Zinn

🤯 How many times is your attention completely taken somewhere else by your thinking & thoughts?

Thinking in itself is needed in our lives – we think to make plans and solve difficult problems – at the same time, it is often the root cause of many of our problems.

Our mind easily gets lost in endless overthinking (worrying and rumination – and replaying the thinking over and over in our minds).

😶‍🌫️ Our thoughts create emotions and feelings like fear, regret, guilt and sadness.
😶‍🌫️ We lie awake at night because we worry about what might happen tomorrow.
😶‍🌫️ We can’t stop thinking of that mistake we made last week.

🤯How can we overcome this?

Using a simple technique called Mindfulness practice.

What Is Mindfulness?
Mindfulness means maintaining a moment-by-moment awareness of our thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and surrounding environment, through a gentle, nurturing & compassionate lens.

Mindfulness is attention.
Mindfulness teaches you the skill of paying attention to the present by noticing when your mind wanders off. Coming back to your breath is an anchor and a space where we can rest and settle our minds.
This attention can be directed inside ourselves as well as outside ourselves.
Attention to feelings, body sensations, thoughts or emotions are examples of attention to one’s inside world. Attention to a conversation with a friend, trees in a forest, sounds or a book are all examples of attention to the outside world.

Mindfulness is attention in the here and now.

Attention to the things that are happening in this very moment.
Mindful attention means attention without judgment in that very moment.

Mindfulness is acceptance.
Mindfulness involves acceptance, meaning that we pay attention to our thoughts and feelings without judging them—without believing, for instance, that there’s a “right” or “wrong” way to think or feel in a given moment.
When we practice mindfulness, our thoughts tune into what we’re sensing in the present moment rather than replaying the past or imagining the future.
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🌸“Listening to your body and honouring its si

🌸“Listening to your body and honouring its signals is one of the true forms of self-love.”🌸

Feelings are ‘physical’ feelings.

People get “butterflies in the stomach” onstage or on a first date, while others who anger easily are described as “hot-headed.”

💜The body holds your physical health and your ability to function.

Because emotions manifest in the body as physical sensations, it follows those physical sensations - can produce corresponding emotions.

Think of a warmth of a blanket wrapped around your shoulders on a cold day.

How this transformation from a physical sensation of heat results in an emotional feeling of happiness and security.

The connection between our minds and our bodies is something we instinctively feel, but how much attention do we pay to our bodily sensations each moment?

To understand our own emotional lives we need a deeper awareness of our feelings and their effects on our bodies. This can happen through the practice of mindfulness and the development of body intelligence.

Body intelligence is a psychological method that highlights the importance of recognizing body sensations as a way to improve our health.

The first step is to recognize the internal cues and sensations that your body tells you. Using Body Awareness.

Body Awareness is about being tuned into your body and its signals. It is about being awake to how your body “speaks” to you and what it is telling you, in a whisper or up to a yell. We often have many physical sensations that we ignore and hope will go away. Being conscious of the impacts that certain foods, physical practices, or internal and external stressors have on your body allows you to learn about what promotes health and vitality, and to make adjustments in the moment.
The greater your body awareness, the more you are in control of bodily outcomes. Being attuned to the effects of that first cup of coffee gives you a base for choosing or refusing a second cup. Mindfulness, reflection, experimenting, and learning are important paths forward to greater body awareness.

Take a moment to acknowledge how you physically feel right now, as well as your next emotional flood be it: joy, sorrow, and calm.

💜Do more of What Makes You HAPPY💜 🌸 We

💜Do more of
What
Makes
You
HAPPY💜

🌸 We can change our states, at any given time, we are in control.
🌸 We chose how to react to what happens to us.
🌸 Your 'happy' is whatever it means to you.

How can you find more happiness and joy in your life?
How can you be in more control of your happiness levels?

💜 Express gratitude for the good things in your life.
💜 Replace negative thoughts with positive self-talk.
💜 Compliment yourself at least once a day.
💜 See your progress, one small task, one small step at a time, if it is in line with what you want for yourself, do it! and celebrate the little successes you achieve no matter how small or big.

🌸 Small strategies that can help you to be happy include:

✅ Figuring out what makes you happy (and what makes you unhappy)
✅ Exploring new hobbies
✅ Putting your own needs and happiness first
✅ Staying physically active
✅ Eating a well-balanced diet
✅ Spending time with people who make you happy and that you enjoy their company and conversations and make you feel better about yourself after spending time with them.
✅ Pursuing the things in life that will bring YOU lasting joy and happiness and not perusing what you think will make others happy.

What do you do that makes you HAPPY?
#Selfcare #love #happiness #everjourneycoaching #wellness

Through the dark woods 🌳 - https://mailchi.mp/6

Through the dark woods 🌳 - https://mailchi.mp/621c9a2351e1/through-the-dark-woods

"Peace is your home,

integrity is the way to it,

and everything you long for

will meet you there."

- Martha Beck

Going through the dark woods of error...?

Can't see the trees from the woods..?

Have you ever experienced a time in your life, when you could not see past the dark and frightening woods of error in your life?

Read my latest Blog inspired by my latest read by Martha Beck The Way of Integrity.

#reading #writting #integrity #life

I don’t think of all the misery but of the beaut

I don’t think of all the misery but of the beauty that still remains.” —Anne Frank

😶‍🌫️ For years I was not happy.
😶‍🌫️ For the longest time, I was miserable, I was unhappy, I was sad.
😶‍🌫️ In my mind, and in my thinking ‘I am miserable’.
😶‍🌫️ ‘Do all people feel this way?’
😶‍🌫️ ‘Is there something wrong with me? ‘

I would remunerate about my past constantly, going over it in my head spinning and replaying it like a movie.

😪 Going over how ‘bad my life is’
😪Over analysing ‘the past’ and ‘everything bad that occurred in my life'...
😪And constantly asking ‘Why .. God . Why me?’
😪A lot of trauma and things that I viewed as awful had happened to me from a young age that caused me to be miserable.

💔😔 My parents split when I was 12
💔😔 I moved countries many times as a child
💔😔I lost my father to a heart attack at 18
💔😔I married – the wrong person at 19
💔😔 I lost my brother at 22 to a car crash
💔😔 I moved countries again and ran away from my abusive partner with my daughter

🤯 I started over more than once - not having anything and having to build a life and home for me and my daughter as a single mom.

I honestly felt life was just a constant uphill survival game where I needed to prove myself, fight hard for what I wanted, and make a good life for me and my daughter.

And in this process of striving for something better, for things to just improve, I lost myself, I became bitter, I expected life to just flow naturally for good things to happen to me and not bad things – and it didn’t happen that way...

Bad things do happen, and they can continue to happen – to all of us, all the time.

💜 The gentle trick that the universe asks from us, is to not focus on the misery but to look at the beauty.

🌸 I realise that misery, challenges and trauma, are part of life.
🌸 Hardships, loss and dark times are part of the process.
🌸 It is in our misery that we can appreciate life in all its beauty.
💚 In sadness, we can appreciate, happiness
💚In loss, we can appreciate life
💚In losing, we can appreciate winning.
💚In the darkness, we can see light.

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Remember how far you've come, not just how far you

Remember how far you've come,
not just how far you have to go.
You are not where you want to be,
but neither are you where you used to be.
- Rick Warren

Setting personal and professional goals can increase your productivity and provide you with a sense of gratification. It can increase your happiness levels especially when you see yourself achieving those specific goals.

But what about measuring progress on your goals & achievements?

Something I struggle with a lot is seeing my accomplishments and how far I have come.

Hear me out, I know I am improving on a personal, professional and wellness level, especially when I look back over the years from starting out with barely anything, as a separated, single mom a few years back.

However, I struggle in seeing my own progress:

😶‍🌫️ I really struggle with seeing how far I have come.
😶‍🌫️ I beat myself up because I do not see any progress at all.
😶‍🌫️ I belittle my accomplishments and brush them off as simple tasks.
😶‍🌫️ I feel that what I have achieved is nothing of great value.
😶‍🌫️ I don’t see my progress & accomplishments as ever being ‘enough’, and I push myself to do more, to push more, work more and prove myself all the time ( to myself and others).
😶‍🌫️ I know that I need to set time aside often to reflect and take stock of where I am, where I was and where I am headed.

Do you see how far you have come?
Seeing how far you've come boosts your courage.
It reminds you of your worth and capabilities, especially in times when you are feeling stagnant, uncertain of what progress you have achieved, or are feeling stuck or experiencing self-doubt.

Some tips for measuring & seeing your progress of how far you have come along:

🌸 Sit down & breathe.
Letting go of the mind chatter, as we are prone to be more negative, make mindfulness a practice to notice your thoughts – and to just take stock and breath and not to get overwhelmed by our own negativity.

🌸 Review your accomplishments regularly.
Track your progress, improvements and goal achievements: make it daily, weekly and monthly.

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“It’s not stress that kills us, it’s our rea

“It’s not stress that kills us, it’s our reaction to it.”―Hans Selye

Stress is how we react when we feel under pressure or threatened. It usually happens when we are in a situation that we don't feel we can manage or control.
It is how to react to ‘the things we care about’.

For a long time, I could not manage my stress, and I still am coping with ways to manage my ‘overly high-stress levels.

We all know when are stressed, we have trouble sleeping, changes in eating patterns, feeling of being unable to cope and other physical symptoms.

I for one struggle with sleep and bruxism (grinding of teeth).

Stress is a feeling of emotional or physical tension. It can come from any event or thought that makes you feel frustrated, angry, or nervous.

In short bursts, stress can be positive, such as when it helps you avoid danger or meet a deadline.

We actually need stress in our lives to accomplish what we need to in our day and to react to threats and situations. It is when we are in a constant stress state, for prolonged periods of time that we can suffer and place our bodies and minds under strain and cause ‘dis-eases in the body over time.

How to manage ‘too much stress’:

Many people benefit from practices such as deep breathing, tai chi, yoga, meditation, mindfulness or being in nature. Set aside time for yourself. Get a massage, soak in a bubble bath, dance, listen to music, watch a comedy — whatever helps you relax.

Maintaining a healthy lifestyle will help you manage stress. Eat a healthy diet, exercise regularly and get enough sleep. Make a conscious effort to spend less time in front of a screen — television, tablet, computer and phone — and more time relaxing.

Use these tips to prevent or reduce chronic stress.

🌸 Re-balance Work and Home.
🌸 Build in Regular Exercise.
🌸 Eat Well and Limit Alcohol and Stimulants.
🌸 Connect with Supportive People.
🌸 Carve out Hobby Time.
🌸 Practice Meditation, Stress Reduction or Yoga, or Yoga Nidra
🌸 Sleep Enough.
🌸 Bond with Your Pet.

What do you do to manage your stress levels?

#stressmanagement #stress #relax #wellness

“Self-compassion is one of the easiest ways to s

“Self-compassion is one of the easiest ways to shift your mental health. In fact, self-compassion is a superpower that we have in our back pockets, and most of us don’t even realize that it is there.”
- Kristin Neff

💜A day late but always relevant!

🌸10 October is World Mental Health Day

🌸The overall objective of World Mental Health Day is to raise awareness of mental health issues around the world and to mobilize efforts in support of mental health.

🌸This year, the theme of mental health day is “Make mental health and well-being for all a global priority”.

🌸Another theme for Mental Health Month is to ‘Tune In’.
Aiming to encourage people to tune into their own mental, social and emotional well-being, decrease the stigma, and empower people to seek help for themselves and others.

💜So what does it mean to ‘Tune In’?

‘Tuning In’ can mean a lot of different things to a lot of people and can include:

🌸 Being present in the moment and aware in a non-judgmental way of what is happening with yourself and the world around you which is particularly important in today’s environment

🌸Tuning into our thoughts – creating space between ourselves and our negative and judgmental thoughts so they do not have a hold on us

🌸Tuning in to your senses – developing awareness and acceptance of our feelings and sensations in our body.

🌸Tuning into perceptions of control – working on what we can influence, and work towards an acceptance in the areas we have no control

🌸Tuning in to your community – how can I help others and engage in meaningful ways of change in my community

🌸Tuning into the impact of stigma - understanding the impact of stigma on people with a lived experience of mental health.

🌸Tuning in to our mental health and well-being can allow people to focus, become present and understand their own mental health and the mental health of those around them. It can also help to create self-awareness so that we can monitor mood and anxiety akin to the way that we monitor blood pressure and develop strategies to manage day-to-day mental health.

#mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #coach #mindfulness #selfcompassion

🌸Happy October 🌸 May it be a month of mirac

🌸Happy October
🌸 May it be a month of miracles
🌸 May it be a month of blessings
🌸 May it be a month of happiness

💜 May only goodness, abundance and blessings come your way, this month & always, that will aid you to believe in miracles 💜

💜 Make it happen
💜 You are worth it
💜 Claim it

#life #october #newmonth #motivation #lifecoaching #coaching #love #coach #everjourneycoaching

Emotional invalidation Emotional invalidation is

Emotional invalidation

Emotional invalidation is the act of dismissing or rejecting someone's thoughts, feelings, or behaviours.

😪 It basically translates to hearing someone say ( sometimes directly or not) : “Your feelings don't matter. Your feelings are wrong.”

😪 Emotional invalidation can make you feel unimportant or irrational. It can take many forms and happen at any time.

😪Invalidation often leads to emotional distancing, conflict, and disruption in relationships, as well as feelings of loneliness, worthlessness, confusion, and inferiority in the affected individual. When a person feels that their thoughts, feelings, and emotions are not heard and understood, they may be left feeling isolated and unsupported.

😪 When someone validates our actions, thoughts or feelings the brain releases dopamine transmitters which attract us to that feeling. Dopamine is also responsible for that feel good factor when you smell you favorite meal, or kiss the person that you love…

Emotional invalidation statements:
🤯 It could be worse.
🤯 You're too sensitive.
🤯 You're overreacting.
🤯 You shouldn't feel that way.
🤯 I know exactly how you feel.
🤯 Just let it go.
🤯 You take everything so personally.
🤯 You make a big deal out of everything.

Sometimes the person who invalidates another is not aware or consciously acting on doing so. They can believe they are genuinely helping the other person and don’t intend to put down or shame their thoughts and feelings. This is one of the reasons emotional invalidation can be hard to confront- the other person may be so oblivious to their own actions.

😪 What it feels like to be invalidated?
The invalidated person will often leave a conversation feeling confused and full of self-doubt. Some individuals knowingly invalidate others as a form of manipulation, control, and psychological injury.

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💜 How can I help and guide others? I have know

💜 How can I help and guide others?

I have known suffering, heartache, loss – anger, resentment, regret, and grief for the obstacles hardships and pain I have endured in my life.

I have also looked in the mirror and said I deserve to be happy.

I have asked over to myself what is wrong with me, what is missing from my life, and why can’t I be happy. Why do I need to prove myself to others, to feel heard and validated?

I have fallen, I have made mistakes, I have made the wrong choices.

I have disappointed people and myself. I have broken people’s trust and my own.
I have wronged people, I have lost faith, and I have wanted to give up on others, on life and on myself.

I have felt terribly alone- hear me again, I still feel so alone, in my fight to overcome personal battles, hardships, and my own miserable melancholic sadness that follows me around and keeps nudging at me.

I have seen and befriended darkness and despair in myself, as it 'being' the only guide and way.

The dark exists all the time, there is suffering in the pits of our barren emptiness and mess, but in the bitter brokenness there is kindness, there is beauty, joy, delight, and yes even happiness - and love waiting to be let out and experienced.

You can feel distressed, be grieving, feel melancholy, miserable, and mournful over where you are today… feel terribly alone and lost.

Hear this now, I will not fix you, or claim that I can.

I do not claim to be better, to be an expert or that I have all the answers.

I can only guide you to see that shine and brightness and the glimmer of light that is three within you.

Find you – he/she deserves to exist whole heartedly.

I will listen, I will understand and not judge you in any way, while you figure it out, I will too, and together, we can grow in this broken world and mend the pieces of ourselves back together.

I will merely be your guide on your journey of life.

🌸 All my love Tam

@tamara.alhalaseh

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